
BY AARON STELLA Welcome back, folks. This chapter of my life story marks the eleventh of its kind. Upon each recounting, I am required to dredge up buried memories that I rarely visit. Recently, however, the impact of my past has become gruesomely clear. There is much left to be done, from what I can see—but I shall be better for it in the end. For those of you who haven’t been following along, you can read the whole story beginning to end after the jump. But for now, onward and upward. So, picking up where I left off last, I’ve won my freedom from the psych ward via good behavior and clearing a series of mental health tests. It was in the gloomy halls of the ward, however, that I discovered a freedom I never realized: that I was the only person worthy of being loved and trusted, and that I could live my life how I saw fit. After returning home from the ward, DHR (Department of Human Resources) met with my mother and me separately and concluded it was best for me not to continue to live with my family. DHR found a family that was willing to take me into their care. And so I transferred what little belongings I had within a few days. It just so happened that my new family was the family of the most popular boy in my high school. Hitherto I had led a fairly friendless existence at school, and so when I heard it was this particular family, I had to contain my excitement: their son was a sinewy southern charmer with a drawl that could turn you to butter and widely rumored to be well-endowed. Straight as an arrow, of course, but my proximity to him was satisfying enough.
The family itself was even poorer then the last I lived with: I note this fact because I came from a family with a yearly household income hovering around two hundred grand (courtesy of my father’s doctor salary); the one after, around $45K (blind mobility specialist); and now, about $26K (a welder). The mother acted as the school nurse at the Catholic high school where her children and I attended, in exchange for free tuition for her offspring. The family lived in a humble home in the Cullman, Alabama, countryside. Their backyard was a 10-acre pasture that held their 10 cows (aka life-savings), and about 250 yards past their front doorstep was a small lake where they often fished for carp. On my first day, I washed dishes with the mother of the house. She told me that she believed homosexuality to be a disease, which evidenced with having an effeminate, freeloading artist for a brother who was openly gay—the “condition” from which all his vices came. I told her I thought differently. She said her word is law; and that if I ever made a pass at one of her boys (she had two, both remarkably beautiful), she would beat me to a bloody pulp. I assured her that wouldn’t happen, so long of course that they didn’t make the first move. Whoops, wrong answer. Open mouth. Insert foot.
I spent the first months with my new family during the last half of spring semester of my junior year. My memory of that time is sort of a wash. Via my new residence with the popular boy, to whom I disclosed all the harrowing exploits that had preceded, the kids from my high school accepted me into their clique. I didn’t particularly care for any of them, but I was in thrall to their newfound acceptance of me from the get-go. I wasn’t about to spoil this chance of “being loved” amongst my peers; it was what any insecure high-school kid wants. Deep down, however, I found high school life to be a farce: education—the point of our daily tenure gets cast to the wayside to accommodate the hierarchies that will carry over into the vacuous, hostile world we will enter after. And the parents—all they care about is whether their kid is a football star or the sexiest cheerleader or prom king or prom queen or class president or whatever other meaningless titles they’ve aspired to since their own high school days. All parents concern themselves with their kids’ grades, sure, but if that were the extent of their concerns, then why does the social hell of high school exist?
So I made friends, but I became especially close with the popular boy. He was as sincere as he was kind, not to mention sharp as tack. Once summer came, we got jobs. He did dishwashing for a small, family-owned Italian restaurant, and I worked as the groundskeeper at the palatial Benedictine convent situated up the road from our high school. It was my first real job. I was terrible at it. The popular boy gave me a crash course (no pun intended) on how to drive a tractor the morning of my first day. Needless to say, in the course of my employment there, I destroyed a family of hibiscuses, crashed the Buick into an tree, got a poison oak rash all over my arms, and managed somehow to tear up the wrong floor in the wrong wing of the convent that the nuns were planning to convert into a hospital. And, wouldn’t you know, they still paid me? Fancy that.
Come the middle of the summer, I began visiting the foster family who first took me in after I stopped living with my biological family. The family I was living with currently was not too keen about these visits. They felt this other family would try to brainwash me—and, as it turned out, that was in fact their intent. They told me that I couldn’t trust my parents, which I already knew, nor the family I stayed with now, that nobody except them cared about me. Then they propositioned me to go live on a tobacco farm in Tennessee, where neither the state nor my parents would ever be able to find me. I jumped at the chance. Sure I had made some friends; sure, I was becoming closer with the popular boy, and working, somewhat happily; but there I could live a life that was my own. On my return home that evening, the parents of my current family forbade me from seeing the other family again. I threw a fit, telling them that they couldn’t stop me. At that, the father of the family walked me outside to the barn where he kept his rusty old tractor and told me to get on and ride the thing till I calmed down. Tearful and despondent, I began aimlessly rolling around the tall grass of the field. Be it by pure physical exhaustion from crying or the din of the motor, a doorway opened for meditative thought: I observed the cows grazing placidly, and the majestic bull nudging his harem to different corners of the field so as to not obstruct my path. I held my head toward the sun as it set while my mind drifted into a place absent memory and meaning. Then, at the tail of twilight, I hopped off the sputtering beast, and met the family back inside as they were saying their prayers. The father and mother nodded to me, and we ate our meal in silence to the song of chattering cicadas.
A week later, I was informed that the other family who offered to whisk me away to Tennessee had kidnapped another adolescent and fled the state, and soon after came to learn that they were wanted felons in three states for abducting children. What was I to think? They had shown me such love, the first of its kind within the bounds of family. And now, I find out that they’re child abductors? The teenager they had kidnapped became the subject of an Amber Alert (reserved alert for missing persons typically younger than 18-years-old). He was found later, in a drugged daze; yet he remembers that his abductors forced him to marry their daughter. That could have been me, I thought, forced to marry her. You would think that a discovery of this magnitude would scare people my age—make them paranoid—not to mention all the events preceding, but it didn’t. And that scared me.
EDITOR’S NOTE: Interested newcomers to the ongoing saga of Aaron’s outrageous autobiography can read the whole thing beginning to end below.
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